Rather from the heart

  ^{Matthew 21 : 28} “What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work today in the vineyard.’
   ²⁹ “‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed his mind and went.
   ³⁰ “Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go.
   ³¹ “Which of the two did what his father wanted?”
   “The first,” they answered.
   Jesus said to them, “Truly I tell you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you. ³² For John came to you to show you the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes did. And even after you saw this, you did not repent and believe him.


Rather say you will not and then go and do it from your heart, than feel forced to say yes and never do it.( just don't say NO when you know you will be doing it and then do it for the praise you will receive)

Suffering for Gods character

^{Romans 5 : 3} Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; ⁴ perseverance, character; and character, hope. ⁵ And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

Peace in my heart is move valuable than pleasing people.  Suffering will come to those that follow there hearts as some hearts go against the ways of the world, just be prepared for it and persevere through it with God for the God character is worth it.